Your life patterns are the result of your perception, or view of life, and what you believed would happen. These are often forged in childhood. Once you understand your personal life patterns, you will be better able to discover certain perceptions and expectations that led you to either negative or positive actions.
If your life patterns are framed in negativity, you can be sure your perceptions and expectations were also negative. The more negative your perceptions and expectations become, the greater they support any negative life patterns.
Another way to think of these perceptions is as filters, through which you view the events of your life. Some people, who seem perennially happy, are considered to view life through “rose-colored glasses.” Their filters are weighted on the side of positive. In depression, life is viewed through, “gray-colored glasses.” Life appears negative, oppressive, and filled with shadows.
In overcoming depression, one of the main areas you may need to change is the way you view life. For example, if you believe that life consistently treats you unfairly, then the inevitable ups and downs of life are filtered through that perception. Up times seem imaginary and are enjoyed, if at all, with suspicion, which times of disappointment are considered normal or par for the course. Every down time that happens strengthens the idea that it’s just the way your life is.
If you have the perception that your life is supposed to be always be smooth sailing, the inevitable downs can cause great anxiety. Down times are now put into a proper perspective because you don’t consider them to be legitimate in your life. Down times are supposed to happen to other people, but not to you. If you are unprepared to deal with these down times, confusion, frustration, and depression can result.
If you have the perception that you don’t really deserve to be happy, you will filter the events of your life to make sure you aren’t content. Good things will be met with suspicion, and bad things will be welcomed as old friends.
If you have the perception that the only way for you to be safe is to be in control, you will have a heightened sense of anxiety of life events. Since people are rarely in total control over their environment, and never in control of other people, this perception leaves a persistent, nagging feeling of insecurity. This perpetual sense of unease can lead to anxiety and depression. Additionally, perceptions are so powerful that they can become engines for self-fulfilling prophecy.
By acknowledging negative perceptions, you can move forward toward a view of life that is neither unrealistically rosy nor unrelentingly gray. Acknowledging your pace, patterns, and perceptions allows you to control them, altering them to support your optimism, hope, and joy, even when life throws you a curve.
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