Many women live their whole lives trying to be someone they’re not, trying desperately to hide who they are — or who they think they are. Sandra was one of them, a woman whose story illustrates the tremendous power in knowing who you are and accepting who you are.
Sandra checked over her figures three times, but the answer was still the same. Inside, she felt that familiar feeling of dread rise up from the bottom of her fear. She’d made a mistake. There was no other way to put it. And now she knew there was no other way to deal with it.
In the past, Sandra would have been in full panic mode by now. She would have looked for ways to pretend the mistake didn’t exist. She would have devised an elaborate scaffold to camouflage and conceal the mistake. All the while, she would have lived in fear of discovery, terrified of her mistake and angry at herself for making it. Not anymore.
Calm down, Sandra, she told herself. You’re not expected to be perfect. What you are expected to do is report problems when you find them. The error is not your mistake; the error would be not to report it. It’s all right. Just get up and do the right thing.
Taking her worksheet with her, she went down the hall to her supervisor’s office. Just tell the truth she counseled herself as she knocked twice on the door. It’s going to be fine.
SOURCE: Chapter 9: “Learning the Power of Acceptance” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.