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How to Let Go of Control: 14 Truths Every Woman Should Know

Stress is produced in your life when you feel out of control. The question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you really have control over any given situation and then act accordingly. As a woman, you have family responsibilities, but really you only have control over yourself. You can guide, teach, and influence, but other people in your family may and will act outside of your control. By learning to let go, you can reduce the amount of needless stress in your life.

Letting Go

  1. To “let go” does not mean to stop caring; it means I can’t do it for someone else.
  2. To “let go” is not to cut myself off; it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
  3. To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequence.
  4. To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
  5. To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
  6. To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
  7. To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
  8. To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all of the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
  9. To “let go” is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.
  10. To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.
  11. To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
  12. To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
  13. To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
  14. To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.

SOURCE: Chapter 5: “What’s Stress Got to Do with It?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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