DBT Series: Article 1 – Tell Me What You See
She can feel it – the anger rising in her core. “I cannot believe she’s late!” Sandy has been sitting in the center of the restaurant with all eyes on her for almost twenty-five minutes as she waits for Gretchen, her friend of two years, to arrive. Granted, she was...
Healing Physically from Childhood Abuse
Recovery from childhood abuse requires healing on a variety of levels. One level that tends to be overlooked is the physical level.
What Has Your Addiction Done to Your Relationships?
We live life surrounded by a sea of choices. The only way to make sense of these competing interests is to filter our choices through priorities. Our priorities are determined by what we do rather than what we say. As the adage goes, “Actions speak louder than words.”...
Is Your Relationship Turning You Away from God?
What do people do when it seems God is not acting according to their expectations? Validation, assurance, relief, significance, and more — are gifts from God.
The Historian and Emotional Abuse
Historians are people who remember every bad thing you have ever done or they think you have done. In healthy relationships, positive and happy memories survive
Healthy Problem Solving After Past Abuse
Dealing with conflict may be faulty if you have past abuse. Healthy problem solvers maintain supportive relationships through increased communication.
Let Go of The Rope
Stopping the Relationship “Tug-of-war” The Game We have all heard of the childhood game of “Tug-of-war”. This is a test of strength, where each end of a single rope is pulled by opposing sides, both of which hope to gain control and take the rope from the other. The...
Helping Children to Love Themselves
Our children need to love themselves and they need to learn to extend that love to others. When children love others, they are empathetic. Instead of reacting to others, they learn to respond by reading the emotional states of others.
Whole Person Care
There are a lot of buzz words these days. “Whole person care” is one of them. But, what does that mean?
Going on Automatic
Think of the brain and mind as two different entities. When brain is left ungoverned by the mind, then you are in a state of autopilot. At such times, you are more likely to be rigid and to behave from old, familiar emotions and thoughts.
Do You Have Self-Esteem Issues?
I plead with you not to dim the light of the truth that you have immense worth. If you are working to recover from emotional exhaustion, you must keep your bulb lit and never let it go out or allow others to put it out.