Childhood abuse has the very real capacity to damage a person’s sense of self. A damaged sense of self creates complications in a person’s relationships with others. In many ways, childhood abuse gives you the blueprint for what not to do in relationships. The difficulty is recognizing the blueprint is faulty when it has become …
Do you know the difference between fear and anxiety? If you look in the dictionary or ask most people, these words are often used interchangeably. However, there is an important distinction between them. To understand, let’s consider Janet and Marc. The sun was just beginning to peek through the blinds as Janet opened her eyes …
Is comfort meant to be a universal and immediate panacea for every uneasy thought of interpreted distress?
Stopping the Relationship “Tug-of-war” The Game We have all heard of the childhood game of “Tug-of-war”. This is a test of strength, where each end of a single rope is pulled by opposing sides, both of which hope to gain control and take the rope from the other. The one who ends up with the …
I encourage you to consider your truth. Are you able to recognize it? Has it become obscured by denial, shrouded in secrecy, deflated by minimization,or inflated by maximization?
Often, it’s only when our eyes have been washed clear with buckets of tears that we will ever get a handle on the larger vision for ourselves and our place in the world.
We should not be ashamed of failure. What may appear as failure could actually mean we had the courage to try something different.
Healthy people are growing people, and people do not grow healthy in isolation. The following questions can help you recognize if you are creating and maintaining healthy relationships.
Society places a great deal of value on not only what you do but also how well you do it. That’s a whole lot of pressure rolled up into a job.
This soundtrack you’ve been living with wasn’t recorded overnight. Instead, it’s a compilation of messages you’ve heard, impressions and impacts you’ve assimilated, and conclusions you’ve reached over the course of your life.
Now is the time to give yourself permission to assign relaxation a place in your life. Learning to relax means you will initially need to work at not working.
I believe a negative pattern of worry is established in childhood, based upon life circumstances, experiences, and perceptions. So, in order to find a way out, you need to be able to backtrack along your way in, to where worry started in the first place.