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When you take the risk of opening up to others and begin to share who you are with someone you learn to trust, you are on your way to emotional wholeness.
The source of this pain may be rooted in childhood, meaning you’re so accustomed to feeling this way, you may experience anger, fear, and guilt afresh at dredging up these truths.
Guilt is an insidious reaction that contributes to stress. Guilt cries out, “Never enough!” When you feel guilty or ashamed, or you blame yourself for not being or doing all you think you’re supposed to be, you can never find peace.
Have you ever been so mad at someone (it doesn't have to be a parent) that it's all you could think about? Every time you were around that person, you kept thinking about how mad you were. You didn't want to be around that person. Even though what made you...
In a previous post, we discussed the traits of individuals with The Secure Attachment Style. Now, let's discuss The Ambivalent Attachment Style. An ambivalent attachment style comes from a childhood in which love and affection are inconsistently given, based on factors the child does not understand. Love and affection, though...
Imagine being involved in a terrifying incident where you were physically harmed or threatened. Then imagine reliving that awful memory over and over again, each time as fresh and horrific as when it happened. This is the essence of PTSD.
I believe one reason women turn acorns into catastrophes is because you have so many responsibilities. Because you are responsible, you believe you should be in control. The question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you really have control over any given situation and then act accordingly.As...
Women today are under stress. Stress is defined as when a force presses on, pulls on, pushes against, compresses, or twists something else. Many women can completely relate. It seems like life itself is pressing in on them, pulling them one way, pushing against them another, compressing them and twisting...
You may think you’re not a formal counselor, therapist, doctor, or attorney. Because you don’t hold one of these specific titles, then your job doesn’t put you in a position to offer advice or counseling to other people. So you don’t have to worry about it, right? Not necessarily.The potential...
Jill suffered a devastating anxiety attack. She had been depressed for months over her upcoming fiftieth birthday. Instead of being a celebration of a half-century of life, Jill dreaded the date. She forbade her family from making "a fuss." She refused to go out with friends as the date approached. ...
Along with tying your identity to your anger, there is also a temptation to define yourself as a victim: once a victim, always a victim. This negative, fatalistic approach has its perceived positives. If you consider yourself a victim, you have a familiar template with which to evaluate yourself and...
The human mind is a wondrous creation, an amazing tool with the power to inspire us to victory or to overwhelm us with defeat. Targeted below are some of the reasons we use for overeating, as well as ways we can turn the tool of the mind to a more...
Accepting the truth in your life means you must come to accept the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. First, there comes an acceptance of the truth in your life that is causing you pain and is the source of your anger. This is the first step...
Your life patterns are the result of your perception or view of life, and what you believed would happen. These are often forged in childhood. Once you understand your personal life patterns, you will be better able to discover certain perceptions and expectations that led you to either negative or...
No discussion of women’s anger would be complete without acknowledging the physical and hormonal influence over the course of your life—from puberty to post-menopause. Each stage has its own challenges. Whatever the phase, there are some basic commonsense steps you can take to treat your body gently. Women in their...
Emotions are much like the weather. Weather is a product of the environment: mixing of warm and cold air, lunar and ocean cycles, and shifts in tectonic plates. Emotions are also caused by various events in our environment. If someone steals your wallet, you feel anger. If you come home...
Here’s a collection of blogs I ran a few months ago featuring case studies of four women whose stories are share in Every Woman's Guide to Managing Your Anger.
After allowing the pain of his divorce to monopolize his daily life, Mark decided to replace anger with joy, blame with mercy and fear with confidence.
The whole person approach to treatment integrates all aspects of a person’s life: