Anxiety says worrying is necessary in order to keep track of all of the potential dangers and problems and catastrophes just lurking around the corner.
Boundaries are an important part of life. They help us see where we end and others begin. They define and protect us. They let good things in and keep trouble away. In a way, they are like a fence around someone’s house or property. Sound pretty good, don’t they? Think about every person you care about. Do you want them to have boundaries?
Are you worried you’ve wanted multiple times to stop but just can’t seem to find the right time or reason? What is that thing or behavior?
Sometimes people will take their feelings of dread and impending disaster and concentrate it into a single area of concern. OCD is anxiety distilled, a potent onslaught of negative thoughts coupled with crippling ritual, disrupting a person’s ability to function.
To help you identify your patterns of worry and what activities or thoughts they are most associated with, you need to answer the following questions. Take your time to answer these questions and rally think about your answers.
To take charge of your life, you need to know what life is really about. You need to live your life in reality, looking for and acknowledging what is real and truthful, even if it hurts or is uncomfortable or triggers an anxiety.
I believe a negative pattern of worry is established in childhood, based upon life circumstances, experiences, and perceptions. So, in order to find a way out, you need to be able to backtrack along your way in, to where worry started in the first place.
To learn to relax, you need to take back charge of your own life. That’s the only way you’ll be able to create a place in your life for relaxation. You need to be in charge in order to assign relaxation its proper value and priority in your life. You need to start saying no to fear and yes to relaxation.
You may be over forty, but most of us have one stubborn little kid rattling around inside. This “kid” represents some unfilled childhood need. And until we either fill or let go of that need, there he or she stays—never aging, always demanding. Kids like to eat junk food. They’re not mature enough to realize …