Those of us with compulsive habits or addictions often share certain deeply embedded and destructive assumptions. These negative core beliefs are so uncomfortable and self-reinforcing that we set us up to look for relief much of the time. Here they are: 1. “I’m a bad, unworthy person.” This belief leads to shame and guilt …
Do you know the difference between fear and anxiety? If you look in the dictionary or ask most people, these words are often used interchangeably. However, there is an important distinction between them. To understand, let’s consider Janet and Marc. The sun was just beginning to peek through the blinds as Janet opened her eyes …
Once you have acknowledged the truth of your pain, you must decide to forgive. What if you understand all the pluses but still don’t feel like forgiving? The first step is to state your truth aloud, even if it’s only to yourself. Put into words how you are feeling and what has been done to …
One of the effects of stress is muscle tension, and some people tend to hold their stress in certain parts of their bodies, such as shoulders, neck, or back.
Is comfort meant to be a universal and immediate panacea for every uneasy thought of interpreted distress?
People respond to stress in two basic but different ways: they’re either go-getters and stay-putters.
Have you ever noticed how relaxed you can feel after you’ve done something physically strenuous? It’s possible to relive a little of this feeling by engaging in progressive muscle relaxation.
Healthy people are growing people, and people do not grow healthy in isolation. The following questions can help you recognize if you are creating and maintaining healthy relationships.
To help you determine your current level of stress, answer the following questions based on the past six months. Keep a tally of the number of points for each yes answer.
Stress is not the ideal environment to make the best decisions. Stress skews your priorities and downsizes goals. Desperate, you make short-term decisions that have long-term consequences.
To help you identify your patterns of worry and what activities or thoughts they are most associated with, you need to answer the following questions. Take your time to answer these questions and rally think about your answers.
To take charge of your life, you need to know what life is really about. You need to live your life in reality, looking for and acknowledging what is real and truthful, even if it hurts or is uncomfortable or triggers an anxiety.