Perfectionism can be a difficult mind-set to release because it can appear so right.
Attempting to achieve perfection can feel so righteous, as Paul talks about in Phillippians 3:9, speaking of his own quest. It can be tempting to forget the “therefore” and just seek to bring about the words of Jesus on your own: be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect. There’s just that problem of the “therefore.” Because of your imperfection, your attempts to attain perfection on your own will always be imperfect.
You may believe your anger is perfect; it may be the one thing you are absolutely sure about and, thus, unwilling to give up. This surety may allow you to feel justified in being angry and in determining how that anger is manifested in your life. But remember the caveat about your anger in James 1:19-20, where he says:
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”
Anger, no matter how right it feels, does not produce righteousness.
SOURCE: Chapter 9: “Learning the Power of Acceptance” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing YourAnger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.