Loss produces pain, so using the term “numbing out” is not a coincidence. So many of the survival strategies used by abused children are meant to do just that—provide a way to numb the pain. You may think you’re avoiding the pain, but you’re not. The pain is still there, affecting what you do and …
Childhood abuse has the very real capacity to damage a person’s sense of self. A damaged sense of self creates complications in a person’s relationships with others. In many ways, childhood abuse gives you the blueprint for what not to do in relationships. The difficulty is recognizing the blueprint is faulty when it has become …
Recovery from childhood abuse requires healing on a variety of levels. One level that tends to be overlooked is the physical level.
Children who are abused may adapt by retaining a habit of constant vigilance—as though they’re constantly under a state of siege. Their worlds are populated not by security but by patterns of risk and attack.
Something dreadful happened on the way to adulthood for far too many children. Perhaps you’re one of them. Perhaps the childhood you so desperately wanted didn’t happen for you. Instead, your childhood wasn’t something you dreamed about; your childhood was a nightmare you survived. And for some of you, just barely.
Childhood is supposed to be a loving, nurturing, and empowering time for children to be strengthened and supported into adulthood. When childhood abuse enters into that picture, that reality becomes torn and tattered. How do you find a way to pick up those fragments of your life and move forward?
Dr. Gregory Jantz and Ann Murray provide the compassion and insight that so many adults need to help understand the “why” of their childhood abuse. Then, they provide the hope, tools and guidance to help them in their recovery to a more happy, balanced and prosperous future.
Childhood abuse is multilayered. Neglect and physical and sexual abuse are always accompanied by devastating emotional damage. This childhood abuse can appear as aggressive actions of harm as well as passive failures to act.
For those of you with families that don’t work so well, you have some challenges ahead of you. The first is, you need to work toward rewriting the negative tapes that were played over and over.
Over the years, I’ve learned how important both verbal and nonverbal communication is in a relationship. Healthy communication, then, requires a new blueprint for those who have experienced childhood abuse.
I believe a negative pattern of worry is established in childhood, based upon life circumstances, experiences, and perceptions. So, in order to find a way out, you need to be able to backtrack along your way in, to where worry started in the first place.
As a professional counselor treating eating disorders for over twenty-five years, I am very concerned about the often over-looked issue of emotional abuse. For many years I have noticed that the focus of abuse, even the concept of abuse, has centered around the physical beatings, outward neglect, and sexual invasion of children. The signs of …
If neglect or abandonment has depleted your emotional life, it is possible to restore emotional strength.
By taking the time to identify and address emotional abuse you may have experienced as a child, you can avoid repeating the same destructive patterns.