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When is Anger Appropriate? Seven Scenarios for Your Consideration

God is always righteous in his anger; he doesn’t need to evaluate it. Because you are not always righteous in your anger, when you become angry, you need to evaluate your reasons, motivations, and actions.

Below are some situations in which I have both seen and experienced anger. I’d like you to take a look at them and place them up to God’s template to evaluate whether the anger is justified:

1) The clerk at the store has to punch in your credit card number because the machine is broken. It’s the third time he’s put your number in and it’s still not right. You’re late for an appointment, and a quick stop is going on fifteen minutes and counting.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

2) You hear over the radio about a small child who was killed due to abuse by a parent.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

3) You’ve just sat down to read the paper after a long day at work, and your spouse, who’s been sitting watching television for about half an hour, asks you to get up and bring back a glass of water.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

4) A co-worker knows you’re a Christian and makes a point of using obscene language in your presence, repeatedly using the names of God and Christ as swear words.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

5) Your teenager tells you he’s going over to a friend’s house to do homework for the evening. When he fails to answer his cell phone, you call over to the friend’s house to find out what time he’s coming home. You find out your son has not been there all evening.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

6) You’re driving down the freeway on your way to work when a car three lanes to your left suddenly diagonals right in front of your car, scooting over to catch a rapidly approaching exit.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

7) You’re asked to help out at a function at church. You agree to stay late and help clean up. The event is supposed to be over by 9:00 p.m., but it gets started late and doesn’t get over until almost 9:40 p.m. You were told there would be at least six people to help with the cleanup, but you find when everyone clears out it’s only you and two other people, neither of whom is the person who asked you to help. Instead of taking twenty minutes to clean up, it takes the three of you almost an hour. You’re now getting home at almost 11:00 at night and have to get up early the next morning.

Is it appropriate for you to be angry?

If you’d like to share, please post your thoughts in the comments section, and look for my responses in the next blog post.

SOURCE: Chapter1: “The Role of Anger” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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