When you use perfection as the standard by which you feel loved yourself or show love to others, this is a dishonest standard because it is impossible to attain. Leviticus 19:35 says, “Do not use dishonest standards when measuring length, weight or quantity” and Proverbs 11:1 says, “The Lord abhors dishonest scales, but accurate weights are his delight.”
If God abhors — or hates — dishonest scales when used on things like wheat or oil, how much more will he abhor dishonest scales when they are used against those he loves?
Perfectionism is a dishonest standard used against you to withhold love and affection.
Perfectionism is a dishonest standard used by you to try to attain love and affection from others.
Perfectionism is a dishonest standard used by you to withhold your love and affection from others.
In any form, it must be jettisoned so that acceptance can do its work in your life.
SOURCE: Chapter 9: “Learning the Power of Acceptance” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing YourAnger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.