In this my final blog post in a series of excerpts from my new book, Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger, I would like to leave you with some final thoughts from the last chapter, “Relying on the Power of God”:
Serving your anger has brought you pain, resentment, bitterness, and sorrow. God promises to give you love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
God is the better master.
If your anger springs from an injustice, an evil, a wrong against you, God will repay.
If your anger springs from unrealistic expectations and wishful thinking, God will renew your mind to see, understand, and appreciate the truth.
If your anger springs from guilt, shame, and fear, God will heal those wounds and replace them with peace, acceptance, and courage.
If your anger is so deeply engrained you can hardly tell where it comes from anymore, God will gently work the truth up to the surface so you can deal with it and move beyond.
If your anger is all you feel you have left in this world, God will open up your eyes to his endless promises and possibilities for your life.
All you need to do to start down this path is to believe.
All you need to do to continue down this path is to act on your belief:
- Start small
- Be intentional
- Be alert to yourself
- Really listen to what you say to yourself and to others
- When you need to be angry, use God as your punching bag
- When you find yourself angry over the things God is angry about, pray and give it over to him since he’s got it anyway
- Actively invite and nurture positive thoughts and feelings
- Practice an attitude of gratitude about life and other people
- Don’t sweat the small stuff
- Forgive the big stuff
- Leave room for God’s wrath
- Actively and intentionally replace love for anger
More than anything else, open your heart and mind to God and his transforming power. Be patient but purposeful in your pursuit of love. Be patient with others; be patient with yourself.
Wait upon the Lord, and he will renew your strength.
SOURCE: Chapter 12: “Relying on the Power of God” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing YourAnger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.