Proverbs 26:21 — “As coal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.”
It is helpful to know you are not the only person in the world. Others are also hurt and carry the scars of their pain. In other words, there is an overabundance of fuel in this world to fan the flames of anger within relationships.
An old saying is that it takes two to tango. If you insist on being a quarrelsome person, you will find a willing partner; you are sure to find plenty of opportunity to kindle strife.
If you have developed the strategy of being combative with others, I urge you to reconsider how effective this is in meeting your needs and filling the desires of your heart. This attitude forces a wedge between you and others. It destroys the very relationships you seek to create, maintain, and strengthen. It sours your mind and warps your viewpoint. It turns the world into a battleground, an adversarial exercise that must be waged day after day. It leaves you no room for peace. When, in your anger, people become your enemy, all your relationships will remain tainted and unresolved.
SOURCE: Chapter 7: “Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing YourAnger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.