Pamela really felt under siege by the pressures of her life. Every task, every demand on her time — even those she agreed to — began to feel like an attack against her peace of mind, her emotional stability, her physical stamina.
In order to cope with the stress, Pamela allowed other things to eat up her time and energy that should have belonged to her family. The anger and resentment she felt at their “insensitivity” to her stress ate away at her love for them. In her heart, she knew this was wrong, but because of the desperation of her siege mentality, she allowed it to continue day after day.
Pamela developed an “us versus them” mentality, with all of the demands and commitments of her life relegated to the “them” category and the “us” being herself and her family. The longer this siege of pressure continued, the more the “us” was turning into just “me,” just Pamela against the world. It was at this point she decided she needed to get some help.
SOURCE: Chapter 5: “What’s Stress Got to Do with It?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.