The goal of love, according to the apostle Paul, is to keep no record of wrongs. This is no easy task. With so much anger and negativity in the world and with the added power of the negative to influence thoughts and feelings, you may be wondering how to counterbalance such a force. Paul says it’s necessary to experience and embody love.
I believe women have a deep desire to love, to love well, and to love better. This desire to love better is a powerful motivation to find a way to neutralize the negativity. Through intentionality and staying alert to yourself, you can develop strategies to neutralize negativity in your life and begin to reduce your backlog record of wrongs.
I have found the following to be effective:
- Pick out the negative threads
- Pounce on the positive threads
- Treat yourself gently
For more in-depth discussion and real-world examples on how to neutralize negativity, I invite you to check out my new book, Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger. Certainly you are welcome to purchase a copy, BUT if you simply leave a comment on this blog post, or follow these instructions for my 30-Day Book Giveaway, you can enter to win a copy for free – personalized and autographed just for you!
SOURCE: Chapter 4: “What’s Wrong with Keeping Score?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.