Healthy people are growing people, and people do not grow healthy in isolation. The following questions can help you recognize if you are creating and maintaining healthy relationships.
The source of this pain may be rooted in childhood, meaning you’re so accustomed to feeling this way, you may experience anger, fear, and guilt afresh at dredging up these truths.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the only way to have a friend is to be one. The depth of your character is best gauged by the depth of your friendships.
As more people become aware of depression, they recognize its presence in their own lives. The nameless dread, the constant fear, the ever-present weight takes on a name. It has now become a “diagnosis.”
During adolescence, you become attracted to the opposite sex. If you want to know more about that person, you have to ask. If you want to just be around that person because it feels good, you have to do more than just walk alongside. At some point, you need to begin a conversation with that person.
Anxiety has written a script where you play the part of a frazzled, anxious, suspicious, irritable, short-tempered, and easily frustrated person. How do you want to be perceived by the other players on stage? When you take control of your own script, you determine the part you are going to play and then you act accordingly.
Perhaps you have forgotten who you really are. Maybe you’ve never known. What causes a negative image of yourself? Your life story holds some valuable clues to solving the mystery.
Now that you may have recognized help is needed in your life, how do you know where to go to get the right help? There needs to be an internal connection (trust) for this to work. Frankly, it can be quite a circuitous path to find the help you need.
A disorganized person is a hodgepodge of responses without a consistent pattern. If there is a pattern, it is that there is no pattern. The disorganized person has come to view relationships, often because of the presence of abuse, as a source of both comfort and fear.
An avoidant person, when faced with abandonment in any form, determines never again to be placed in such a position of need. The panic and pain of rejection are protested against by burial of those negative feelings.
In a previous post, we discussed the traits of individuals with The Secure Attachment Style. Now, let’s discuss The Ambivalent Attachment Style. An ambivalent attachment style comes from a childhood in which love and affection are inconsistently given, based on factors the child does not understand. Love and affection, though desperately wanted by the child, …
How do you know if you have a secure attachment style? People who have this attachment style exhibit specific characteristics and personality traits. Here is a list of statements for those with a secure attachment style.