by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Mar 30, 2017 | Abuse, Anxiety, Perfection, Self-Esteem |
Any kind of abuse, emotional abuse included, is an attack on a person’s sense of self. It demeans and controls that person through words or actions, devaluing that person and ultimately elevating the abuser.
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Mar 15, 2017 | Abuse, Anger, Depression, Happiness, Prayer, Recovery |
Negative messages need to be turned up, but only so you can evaluate them; they are not meant to be cranked up for the rest of your life. The goal of turning up the volume of negative thoughts is so you an really hear what they’re saying and learn to put those messages in their proper context.
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Mar 8, 2017 | Abuse, Anger, Relationships |
When dealing with your emotional abuse, it may be easy to view things with tunnel vision. All you may see is the pain and damage of the abuse. You may not see some of the reasons behind it. Nothing can explain it away.
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Sep 4, 2016 | Abuse, Mental Health, Parenting, Relationships |
Attachment theory highlights the importance of a strong, healthy attachment in childhood. This important attachment comes at the earliest stages of life to a parent or primary caregiver, usually a mother. This first, fundamental attachment, or relationship, sets the stage for all relationships going forward.
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Mar 18, 2016 | Abuse, Mental Health |
It seems some people have an uncanny ability to attract the “wrong” kinds of people in relationships. I have heard clients describe themselves as having a “radar” whereby the wrong kind of people seems to be able to pick them out in a crowd. ... by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Feb 6, 2016 | Abuse, Anxiety, Causes, Depression, Recovery |
“So you really think you can get that job, huh? What a joke! Why in the world would anyone want to hire you?” Jeff’s older brother sneered at him with disgust. “Well, I guess because I’m a hard worker and I’m willing to learn,” Jeff responded angrily, feeling that... 
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Nov 16, 2015 | Abuse, Anger, Depression, Uncategorized |
Along with tying your identity to your anger, there is also a temptation to define yourself as a victim: once a victim, always a victim. This negative, fatalistic approach has its perceived positives. If you consider yourself a victim, you have a familiar template... 
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Sep 30, 2015 | Abuse, Depression, God, Mental Health, Relationships |
Spiritual abuse is used as a way to manipulate and control, and it usurps divine authority in order to promote self, which is the opposite of what God does.
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Jul 2, 2015 | Abuse, Mental Health, Parenting, Teenagers, Uncategorized |
Sexual abuse between family members is unfortunately common, and understandably very difficult to confront. If you are the victim of sexual abuse or aware of sexual abuse taking place in your family, please seek help. Do not allow the abuse to continue in silence.... 
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Jun 8, 2015 | Abuse, Causes, Eating disorders, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Uncategorized |
As a professional counselor treating eating disorders for over twenty-five years, I am very concerned about the often over-looked issue of emotional abuse. For many years I have noticed that the focus of abuse, even the concept of abuse, has centered around the... 
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Jun 1, 2015 | Abuse, Anxiety, Childhood Depression, Childhood Eating Disorders, Kids, Mental Health, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships, Teenagers |
One of the deepest needs of children is consistency, including the certain knowledge that they are unconditionally accepts and valued by those who love them. Small children crave the repetitive, constant nature of certain stories in which the same words or phrases are... 
by Dr. Gregg Jantz | Apr 10, 2015 | Abuse, Addictions, Anxiety, Depression, Mental Health, Recovery, Self-Mutilation |
Terry sat in the train station worrying. She worried she was at the wrong track. She worried the train would be late. She worried her daughter wouldn’t be able to pick her up at the other end. Terry worried this entire trip was really a bother to her daughter,... 