It is no surprise to me that many women choose depression as a way to cope with anger. After all, many of you as children learned to suppress the anger you felt, it being neither appropriate nor permissible. In this type of upbringing, you probably also learned to keep things secret. The bad things you saw and experienced within the family were to be buried. The goal was to appear to be perfect on the outside, so all the bad things got swept away, out of sight. The appearance was more important than the reality, the surface things over the truth.
There comes a point at which, however, there simply isn’t any more room in which to stuff things, and those bad things start bulging out.
And so goes the ripple effect of bad things. What hurt back then continues to affect you right now. And the very people God intended to help salve your wounds and comfort your heart are either locked out through the bars of depression or relegated to the position of servicing your rage.
What you really want is to proclaim the truth of your anger. What you want is justice. In order to get that justice, you may need to step out of the way with your anger and let God take the lead.
SOURCE: Chapter 6: “Why Shouldn’t I Be Angry When Life is Unfair” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.