As the founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc., I’ve spent 25 years helping men, women and adolescents overcome some of the most challenging issues of their lives. Based on this experience, I have had the opportunity to share what works (and what doesn’t) in numerous books on subjects ranging from depression to addiction to eating disorders.
Now in this blog I will share with you excerpts from my books that have brought help and hope to people in need of the whole-person approach to healing, starting first with my most recent book on anger management for women.
Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger (Revell, November 2009)
Ever felt completely misunderstood? Taken for granted? Stressed out taking care of everyone else while nobody pays attention to your needs?
Ever felt out of sorts, out of shape, and out of options?
Ever felt as though you would just lose it if you were presented with one more thoughtless word, one more careless deed, one more unfeeling demand on your time?
Ever felt really, really angry?
Ever felt guilty about it?
People have not generally provided an outstanding example of a rational response to anger. Even a brief exploration of history will attest to this unfortunate truth. For many of you, a look at your own past and the role anger has played in your life only provides personal verification that, left to yourself, it’s simply difficult to come to grips with your anger.
In Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger, you’ll find that a biblically based response to anger has the power to overcome the rage, bitterness, pain, and unhappiness in your life.
I realize some of you may be saying, “Excuse me, you’re a man! What do you know about a woman’s anger?” It’s true, I’m not a woman, but I’m married to one and have been for many years…. I’ve counseled females of all ages, from grade school to the elderly. I’ve seen their tears, heard their stories, experienced their truths, helped their recovery, and, yes, felt their anger.
When a woman’s anger is managed correctly, it is motivating, empowering, cleansing, and effective. When it’s done poorly, it’s addictive, self-perpetuating, alienating, unhealthy, and destructive.
I’m not asking that you to give up your anger. Anger is an emotion you’ve been created to experience. What I will ask is that you:
- Accept the truth of your anger
- Examine where it comes from
- Be honest about how you use it
- Be open to change
- Be willing to forgive, even yourself
- Be willing to let go
- Be willing to feel something else besides your anger
There is relief from a life fueled by unrelenting anger and rage, frustration, and irritation. There is a life to be experienced, nourished by a wellspring of optimism, hope, and joy. It’s the life you were meant to live. Isn’t it time to claim it?
SOURCE: Introduction to Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz Ph.D.