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19 Signs You are Venting Anger

On Friday I talked about 14 ways your hidden anger may be manifesting itself. So what can be said of anger that is vented and released?

Vented anger, because of its “out there” nature, can be much easier to identify. However, many people still attempt to diffuse it by calling it other names, as you saw briefly in the earlier chapter. I’d like you to take a look at the following list of words and mark any you identify as part of your anger repertoire. Again, be honest and bold. If you have a loved one or close friend, consider asking him or her to look over the list and discuss it with you. Other people are a good barometer of what you aren’t able to recognize in yourself.

Do you often feel …

1)      Disappointed

2)      Bitter

3)      Resentful

4)      Critical

5)      Controlling

6)      Hostile

7)      Mean

8)      Sarcastic

9)      Frustrated

10)  Insecure

11)  Victimized

12)  Destructive

13)  Anxious

14)  Irritable

15)  Impatient

16)  Blaming

17)  Manipulative

18)  Selfish

19)  Prideful

All of these can be ways of expressing anger. Look over your list and answer the following questions:

  • What do you tell yourself when you feel this way?
  • Does your thought life escalate or deescalate your feelings?
  • How do you feel after you express these feelings?
  • How do you feel about yourself?
  • How do you feel about anyone else involved?
  • How do you feel physically?
  • How long does it take you to get over the feelings?
  • Do you “replay” the event and the feelings inside your head?
  • Are you ashamed of how you reacted?
  • Are you remorseful over how you reacted?
  • If you could get rid of one of these reactions, which one would it be and why?

Be aware of your anger levels over the next several weeks. Again, write down, if you’re able, what you feel and any reasons you determine for feeling that way. Note any out-of-line or extreme reactions or feelings. Be sure to write these down for more examination, thought, and prayer.

SOURCE: Chapter2: “The Root of Destructive Anger” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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