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How Do You Hear God?

Friday, May 6th, 2011

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Sometimes it takes work and effort on my part to put myself in a position where I can hear God. Some people call this effort “spiritual disciplines.” Some of the ways you can look for God to speak to you are through:

  1. Prayer
  2. Meditation
  3. Reading
  4. Journaling
  5. Studying
  6. Seeking counsel
  7. Listening

If you’re already doing some of these, congratulations! Rededicate yourself to the task. If one or more of them have become stale or rote, switch it up:

  • Choose a different place or time to pray or meditate.
  • Try using a journal to record your prayers or meditations.
  • Read a different translation of the Bible. Try one that you’ve never considered before.
  • Switch it up. Be more structured with your study if you haven’t been studying the Bible much, or, if you’ve been very diligent, change your study topics for the next six months; be more spontaneous. Start opening up the Bible at random, and study from there.
  • Find a wise, godly person who you can be open and transparent with, seeking accountability and a sounding board for spiritual matters.
  • Spend some time each day just calming your mind, opening it up, and listening to what God might want to say that day. Whenever possible, go outside and walk in order to get out of your environment and into His.
  • Pay attention to what God is saying to you. Write it down as soon as you hear it. Use your journal or keep a small spiral notebook or pocketbook with you or available so you can make sure not to lose what you hear. Make sure to put it by your bedside, as God often has used the time of either going to sleep or upon waking to capture your undivided attention.

This is by no means the definitive list of ways you can hear God. What others would you add to the list?

The Role of Joy in Being Happy

Wednesday, January 5th, 2011

A truly joyful, optimistic, positive person is wonderful to be around. Because they act in ways that are so contrary to how people usually handle situations, they are immediately noticeable. Others are aware that these people are different. In this way, God is glorified through your ability to exhibit joy in difficult circumstances. Your joy becomes a living testimony to others. You radiate out.

Usually when negative or pessimistic people suffer, they become incredibly inward focused. Their world shrinks and collapses in on itself, coalescing into a self-absorbed core. This core can become so dense with negativism and pain that other people get sucked in and depleted. Interacting with a pessimistic person who tends to always suffer from something can suck the joy right out of you if you’re not careful. Being around them makes you feel drained.

I have had the privilege to be around joyful, optimistic people who were undergoing hardship of incredible proportions. I have gone to visit them, fully intending to try, in some small way, to offer comfort and instead found myself receiving much more comfort. Here they are, in dire physical or circumstantial straights, and they end up doing more for me and my attitude than I ever did for them. Their complete reliance on God and the Holy Spirit to get them through the situation is crystal clear. I go to give them comfort, and they wind up giving me hope.

Their attitude is summed up for me in a passage from one of the minor prophets, Habakkuk. It’s a small book, only three chapters. Like Jeremiah, it was written at the time of the Babylonian invasion of Jerusalem. Like Job, it contains a series of conversations with God. Habakkuk doesn’t understand why God is working the way He is (using the Babylonians to punish Judah and Jerusalem), seeming to allow evil to oppress His people. In the end, Habakkuk comes to understand that God really does have the final say and will make sure justice prevails, even though it will not come about in Habakkuk’s lifetime.

At the end of the book, Habakkuk’s final words hauntingly echo in my heart as they speak to me of today’s hope anchored in tomorrow, of joy expressed defiant of circumstance, of optimism tightly grasped in trust:

Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Savior. The Sovereign Lord is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, he enables me to go on the heights. ~Habakkuk 3:17-19

I don’t know what you personally are going through or what might have prompted you to pick up this book. If it was a time of prolonged sadness or tragedy, please know my heart goes out to you. And if it were only my heart I could give, frankly, it wouldn’t be enough. What I can offer you is to embrace the attitude of Habakkuk. Pray and ask God to empower you through His Spirit to experience joy within your situation. For God, nothing is impossible. The reality of this world is set; hardships and suffering are a given. God will not always remove the impossible situation from you, but He is always able to fill your heart with joy.

One way God can fill your heart with joy is through prayer, as you’ve read.

Being in constant communication with God, to receive His Spirit and perspective on life and what you’re going through, is integral to a life of joy. Another way to experience joy is through worship. This doesn’t necessarily mean only in a religious building or at a religious event. God is worshiped when you offer your life up to Him on a daily basis through the routine events of life. Worship focuses your attention on God and instills reverence and awe. In worship, you acknowledge God for who He is, in all of His attributes. This is the same God who loves you and has promised to care for you. When the world and its problems seem far too large for you to handle, prayer and worship to God can bring it back down to its proper size.

When the world and its negativity threaten to suck the joy right out of you, drawing near to God can cause it to flood back into your life. When the road of life gets bumpy, joy acts like spiritual shock absorbers and allows you to still enjoy the ride.

SOURCE: Chapter 12, “The Role of Joy in Being Happy,” in Happy for the Rest of Your Life by Dr. Gregory Jantz, founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources, Inc.

Praying for Peace Over Anxiety

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Anxiety is fear, worry and apprehension all rolled into one. It is an overwhelming belief that the worst is coming and that you absolutely are not prepared to handle it. Anxiety produces panic and dread.

The feelings of doom and disaster are so real, it can prompt you to run toward destructive behaviors as the lesser of two evils. In this case, the excessity functions not so much to produce pleasure as to throw up a buffer against those feelings of anxiety. As such, the excessity is given carte blanche; it is ceded a great deal of latitude and power because of the desperation and fear of the anxiety.

When you experience anxiety, God does not want you running to an excessity; He wants you running to Him. The verse that started this chapter says that you and I are not to be anxious about anything but that in everything, by prayer and petition, we are to tell God what we need to deal with our anxiety. This verse is amazing in its all-encompassing nature with its use of the words anything and everything.

God knows that only He is able to counter the power that anxiety can exert over our lives.

If you are anxious, you are to give it over to God completely, totally, without reserve. You are also to adjust your thinking from being anxious to being grateful, which is quite a shift! Being grateful, however, is a very useful tool because it forces you to concentrate on the good things instead of the bad.

Anxiety scoops up any possible bad thing, with the cyclonic power of an emotional whirlwind, and sends you spinning wildly out of control. Gratitude, however, is an anchor, tethering you to God through a remembrance and acknowledgement of the good things. Gratitude also redirects your thinking away from all the thing you can’t control, toward all of the things God can.

Anxiety, in my experience, is like a runaway train. The longer it goes uncontrolled, the more speed it picks up…until it is screaming down the track of your thoughts, pushing anything and everything else out of its way. Only God, through the divine communion found in prayer, through His Spirit, is able to slow that train down and put your thoughts back on proper track.

Prayer allows your mind to rest, to surrender over to God instead of surrendering to the panic. When you do this, God promises that He will give you His peace. Peace and panic cannot exist in the same space. They are mutually exclusive.

Peace is the true antidote for anxiety, not a cover-it-over, just make-it-all-go-away Gotta Have It! excessity.

Source: Chapter 4, “Our Need for Reassurance” in Gotta Have It! by Dr. Gregory Jantz, founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources, Inc
 
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Prayer for Freedom From Anger

Monday, January 11th, 2010

You stand at the door to my heart and knock. You stand at the door to my anger and ask to be allowed inside. I confess I’ve been ashamed for you to see what lies inside that door. I confess I have wanted to keep what lies inside that door to myself.

I confess to you, Father, this anger is poisoning my relationships. Anger has become an idol in my life that I have worshiped and turned to for solace. Free me from my anger, almighty God. Release me from its chains. Drive out the mocker from inside my head. Help me to hear only your voice, as you sing over me with love and grace.

SOURCE: Chapter 7: “Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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Prayer for the Power of Optimism, Hope & Joy

Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009

Dear Father, help me to choose to live a life devoted to you, trusting you to protect me and alert to the blessings you bring each day into my life. I want to be able to get up each morning, to say and really believe “this is the day the Lord has made; I will rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24).

Just as I need your help, your strength, wisdom, and direction to get rid of my anger, to get rid of the bad things in my life, I need your help to fill up my life with good things. I confess I can be suspicious of good things. I confess sometimes I don’t want to accept good things because I don’t want to feel obligated to change and give up something else. Help me to unclench my hands of the things I think I need in order to be able to grasp hold of what you provide.

Father, you are a God of hope. I claim Romans 15:13 for myself: fill me with all joy and peace as I trust in you, so that I may overflow with hope and the power of the Holy Spirit.”

SOURCE: Chapter 11: “Living the Power of Optimism, Hope and Joy” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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Prayer for Release from the Stresses of Life

Thursday, December 10th, 2009

Holy Father, I trust my life to you. I give all my stresses and struggles, my burdens and my cares over to you. For who shall separate me from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? Shall any of the things I am so fearful of or that affect me so negatively? No, dear God, I can conquer and have victory over all these things because of your Son who loves me.

Please help me to be convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate me from your love that is in Christ Jesus my Lord.

Grant me peace in my heart, strength in my mind, and courage in my soul as I face the stresses of my life.

Help me to know that you are sovereign over my life, that I am your child, and that you love me so very much.

SOURCE: Chapter 5: “What’s Stress Got to Do with It?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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Thanksgiving Prayer for Women

Wednesday, November 25th, 2009

Dear God, help me to know how much you love me. Help me to have the courage to follow your example of love and keep no record of wrongs. But first, help me to understand and know the true record of wrongs I’ve harbored in my heart. I need this truth to come out into the open. Give me the strength to swing wide the doors of my heart and let the light in. Give me the courage to face what’s inside. Give me the insight to know how to weave back together the fabric of my life with your love. You make all things new, Father. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew my spirit, as your Word says.

SOURCE: Chapter 4: “What’s Wrong with Keeping Score?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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Prayer for Truth in the Face of Anger

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Holy Father, I know there is no shadow of falsehood in you. You are truth itself and want me to live in truth. I ask you to hold my hand as I walk through discovering the truth in my own life and thoughts.

I confess I have wanted my false assumptions more than I wanted the truth.

Give me courage and peace to accept the truth because sometimes the truth really hurts. Be with me when I hurt because of the truth. Heal me when I hurt because of the truth. Strengthen me with the understanding that truth is important to you so it needs to be important to me. Remind me of the truth of your love, grace, and forgiveness as the underlying truth of all else.

Teach me your truth, Father.

Set me free.

SOURCE: Chapter 3: “How Do Unfulfilled Expectations Affect Anger?” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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Prayer for Peace in the Face of Anger

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Father, you are always justified when you are angry. I ask forgiveness for the times I anger you. Help me to discern areas in my life where I am angry but shouldn’t be; help me to experience peace. Help me to discern areas in my life where I am not angry but should be; reveal my complacency. I ask you to help me use the anger you have designed within me to accomplish your will and purposes for my life. Prevent me from using anger in ways outside of your will.

SOURCE: Chapter1: “The Role of Anger” in Every Woman’s Guide to Managing Your Anger by Gregory L. Jantz, PhD., founder of The Center for Counseling and Health Resources Inc.

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