Submission is not a manly word. Submission means capitulation, surrender, compliance. It is the opposite of being your own man, charting your own course, being the captain of your own ship. Yet, even a ship’s captain must submit to a new course in order to change direction.
A ship’s captain is in charge of the conditions requiring change. A wise captain accepts the reality of his position and submits to the prevailing conditions by adjusting course. Unwise captains plow ahead and end up wrecking ships.
Using the ship analogy, answer the following:
- Your ship is your life. All ships have a name; what’s yours?
- All ships have a point of christening, a launch date when they first to the water. This christening point is when you finally felt in charge of your life. Where was that? When was that?
- When your ship first left dock, where was it headed?
- Your course is the result of the decisions you’ve made in your life. Are you still headed in your original direction? If so, what has helped you stay the course? If not, what has caused you to go in a different direction?
- Your cargo is the material goods you’ve accumulated in your travels through life. How attached are you to this cargo? Are you willing to jettison all or part in order to change course?
- Your ballast is the baggage you’ve accumulated over the years. Are you willing to examine this ballast and rearrange it if necessary to maximize your potential to reach port?
- Your crew are those people who are sailing with you, both family and friends. Who on this crew is your first mate? What has your first mate been telling you about the course you’re on?
- Reality is the prevailing conditions. When you think about these conditions, remember to include not only external conditions like weather (what’s going on around you that you can’t control), water depth (how much cushion you have between you and adverse consequences), and wave action (how much resistance you are experiencing on your current course) but also internal conditions like the morale of your crew (relationships with family and friends) and the seaworthiness of your ship (what on board your life is creating a danger).
The truth that naturally flows from knowing who you are can be a mighty wind. You can fight against it and wreck your ship, or you can accept it and find a way to use that energy to chart a new course.
The above is excerpted from Battles Men Face: Strategies To Win the War Within by Dr. Gregory Jantz.